Q&A Sunday: Feng Shui for Your Ex

Guest User November 1, 2020

Is there anything feng shui-wise that can help me cut ties with my toxic ex?

If you have a toxic relationship that you need to let go of, be aware that feng shui does affect your energy, so it can definitely make a difference. Here are a few suggestions from a feng shui perspective that may help you cut ties with your ex:

First, make sure you don’t have anything in your home that’s connected to your ex energetically, for instance any of their clothing or mementos. It’s especially important to move these things out of your bedroom, since this is your most intimate room that’s most closely connected to you. If you must hold onto anything connected to your ex (for example, if you are going through a divorce and have to keep the divorce papers), find another place in your home to store them.

Second, space clear your bedroom. Your ex’s energetic presence actually takes up space in your home. Space clearing, especially in your bedroom, will remove your ex’s energy. This helps create space for you to work on your own self care and eventually invite in a new partnership. There are many different ways to space clear - here are a few of my favorite methods to get you started.

Something else to keep in mind when you’re working through a toxic relationship or finding your way out of one is that it’s a good idea to take time to heal yourself. An adjustment I often give for inviting a relationship is to put two pieces of rose quartz in your relationship area, to represent you and a future partner. However, in this case it might be more helpful to just have one for the time being. It’s important to heal yourself and your own heart first before rushing into a new relationship.

by Anjie Cho

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Q&A Sunday: Dried Flowers and Feng Shui

Guest User October 25, 2020

Are dried flowers really bad feng shui? What about silk flowers?

Thanks for your question! This has been a hot topic with my Mindful Design students as well.

In general, dried flowers are not good feng shui. They’re dead and past their prime, so they don’t have any life energy, and are not recommended as a feng shui adjustment. They are a source of yin qi, which is related to death, and not something you want to have too much of.

That said, don’t freak out if you have dried flowers in your home, especially if you love them! Maybe you have a dried bouquet that’s meaningful to you, like your wedding bouquet. This doesn’t mean that you’ll have bad luck or bad feng shui for the rest of your life.

Not everything in your home needs to be a feng shui adjustment. People often want everything in their home to be perfect, but this shouldn’t really be the goal. As we know by looking at the cycles of nature, including seasons and moon cycles, everything waxes and wanes. Life changes, so you can’t have a perfect feng shui home, nor would you want one.

Rather than worrying about whether everything in your home is “good feng shui”, keep things in your home that you love and have meaning to you, and make sure you take care of them. Even if an item in your home isn’t ideal from a feng shui perspective, you know what’s best for yourself, and no one’s going to stop you from putting something in your home that you love and think is beautiful. This is especially true if it’s just for decoration.

If someone advises you to bring flowers into your home as a feng shui adjustment, however, that’s a time you wouldn’t want to use dried flowers. For instance, if you want to bring in more fire energy, you can do so with fresh red flowers, not dried red flowers. Dried flowers don’t have the same life energy as fresh flowers, and wouldn’t have the same impact on your home’s qi.

Artificial flowers are a bit different because they were never living or dead. If you have a preference for artificial flowers or plants, think about why. Are you choosing artificial plants out of laziness, or out of necessity—having absolutely no light, for example?

If you use something for a feng shui adjustment, it’s always better to use the real thing with living qi, because feng shui is about energy. If you take the easy way out by choosing dried or artificial flowers just because they don’t require the same care and attention as fresh ones, then that decision will be mirrored in the energetic effects that you see in your life as well.

by Anjie Cho

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Q&A Sunday: Feng Shui and Abundance

Guest User October 18, 2020

Can feng shui help me with abundance?

The short answer to your question is yes, feng shui can be a tool to help you feel more abundant, financially and otherwise. However, when someone asks about feng shui and abundance, they are often looking for a quick fix. I don’t approach feng shui in this way. For me, feng shui is mindfulness for your home, and being aware of how our spaces reflect our inner world.

People tend to be very interested in the abundance area. Often, this area may not really be the problem, and there is actually another area of life that needs support. Perhaps you need to work on clarity in your career, or inviting helpful people into your life. Or maybe you need to cultivate your skills and wisdom in order to build more wealth.

If you truly need to work on wealth and abundance, you can look to the wealth area of your home. It’s called Xun in Chinese, and is related to abundance and prosperity, as well as self-worth. It’s also related to feeling abundant in other areas of your life, not just financially. To find the wealth area of your home, stand at the front entrance looking in, and find the far left corner of your house.

Usually, you feel as abundant as your subconscious mind is comfortable with, so that’s something to think about. If you want to bring in more financial abundance, that may also have something to do with how much you value yourself, and how you are able to receive from others.

Take a look at what’s happening in the wealth area of your home. Maybe you put something there three years ago, but what’s happening with it now? Have you updated it? Have you totally forgotten about it? Is it collecting dust? Think about what you’ve noticed, and what that can tell you about how you approach your self-worth and your abundance. Take some time to really contemplate this.

The wealth area is also related to the yin aspect of the wood element. Yin wood is like a big tree, which grows slowly and has deep roots. Similarly, enhancing your abundance is a slow, steady process that requires going deep. It isn’t just about adding an object to your home to make it better —that’s a shortsighted way of solving a bigger issue.

I invite you to go a little deeper. See what’s going on in your abundance area, and see how that reflects on ways that you can invite more prosperity and feelings of self-worth into your life.

by Anjie Cho