Q&A Sunday: What Should I Put on the Wall by My Bed to Attract Love?

What should I put on that wall by my bed? And I wouldn’t mind working on my love life!

Stephen, Brooklyn, NY

Hi Stephen,

Thanks for your question and the cute floor plan! Love the colors! Sometimes people are surprised to hear that even the execution of the floor plan can give me some content for the person’s Feng Shui.

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I’m not surprised you’d like to focus on love, because pink tones are associated with the Relationship area, and the grey is related to Completion and Joy. Maybe you’d like some more joy in your love life? And maybe some things need to end to make room for new love. I laid the feng shui bagua map on your bedroom plan, and two things stick out. The bed is the first.

The bed would ideally be rotated so the headboard along the wall that says “10 ft”. This puts you in the commanding position. But from your dimensions I see that you might not have enough room. If you can, I would advise it. If you can’t, the ideal thing to place on the wall next to the bed would be a mirror. It’s always a good idea to have space available on both sides of the bed. Even just a few inches will help. In regards to relationships, when you have that bed up next to the wall, there’s no space for a partner to come into your life. It’s important to have a space that is equal (or in your case, as big as you can make it), to attract an equal and balanced partner into your life. 

As far as what to put up on the wall in the bedroom, as I mentioned before, a mirror would be best if you can’t change the orientation of your bed. By placing a mirror on the side of the bed that’s up next to the wall, you can energetically and visually create that space. And since your bed is not in command, you can also place a mirror somewhere in the room so that you can see the door reflected in it when you’re in bed. By having the back of your head facing the entry, you’re not in command. This puts you at a disadvantage in many ways…one of which is that you may not be able to truly see all the possibilities for love clearly.

The second thing I noticed was that in your Relationship area you have your hamper! Yes, I know the hamper has to go somewhere, but maybe if you’re looking for a partnership, it’s better in a different bagua area! It may imply that you have old stinky laundry that’s keeping you from finding a partner! If it must be in that area, just be mindful to do your laundry regularly and not let it pile up. But if possible, best to move it anywhere else for now.

Finally, the last suggestion circles back to the colors pink and peach. In BTB feng shui, we have something called “peach blossom luck” which helps you to attract a partner. You can paint one or all of your walls pink or peach. But even pink or peach linens or pillows or other accessories will work. Find a large canvas at the art store and paint it a lovely shade of peach. It’s even effective to wear pink and peach.

Let us know how it goes! 

by Anjie Cho

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Q&A Sunday: Daybeds and Feng Shui, Part 2

I am not interested in bedroom position for attracting love, I have someone and we both have our own rooms and are happier like that. He likes to fall asleep watching TV, I can not stand a TV in my bedroom; he likes to eat in bed, I hate eating in bed; I like to stay up late, he likes to go to bed early, falling asleep watching TV. So not looking to "attract" a partner. We are both happy in our own space and our rooms are right across from each other. My question is: I have a day bed that looks like a couch; it has a bottom trundle that pulls out, and I use it for my dog to sleep next to me without being on me. I do the red sheets under a sheet on it since it is a daybed. How should it be positioned in my room? My kua number is 2, the room is south direction and would be called south east if standing in the center of the house. Should the side which looks like the back of a couch face the wall or should the end face the wall where my head sleeps at night? Thank you.

Feng Shui Learner

Dear Feng Shui Learner:

Hi there, thanks for reading our blog! This is a great question and comment on the Q&A Sunday: Daybeds and Feng Shui post from a few years ago. 

It’s good that you have created a comfortable life situation with your husband and your own spaces! Many couples are very happy with separate bedrooms, and it’s very common. 

In this case, your bed does not need any sort of red sheet. One reason for the red sheet, or red, is to energetically repair any separation with a partner. But you and your husband have chosen to have separate beds, and you’re not worried about any separation in your marriage. Second, the red would be used to energetically create a single bed in the case that you sleep with both mattresses. But you prefer to sleep alone on a single mattress, so the red sheet is not useful and doesn’t serve a purpose here. 

I practice BTB feng shui, which does not use kua numbers nor directions to locate beds. However, from the BTB perspective, you can locate the bed in the commanding position so that when you are lying in bed, you can see the door without being right in line with the door. If you sleep in the bed alone on the single twin only, then where you sleep with your head, that would be the headboard. It’s still not the best energetically for an adult to sleep with one side against a wall. This doesn’t allow the qi to flow around you well while you’re sleeping. But if you insist on the daybed, you can place a mirror on the wall where the daybed meets the wall to open up the space.

I’m happy to see you’ve already incorporated some feng shui in your life, and you seem to be a regular reader, so thank you! If you are interested in learning even more about how to apply feng shui, I encourage you to visit the Mindful Design School website and sign up to be notified for the next program!

by Anjie Cho

If you’d like to learn more about feng shui check out the Mindful Design feng shui cerfication program. Laura Morris and I just launched our program. Check us out at www.mindfuldesignschool.com

Mindful Design is a new way to learn feng shui. Our a unique training program takes an holistic approach to learning the art of feng shui design. Mindful design is about becoming aware, and attentive, to the energy around you: both inner and outer qi. It is about promoting a better way of living and creating sacred spaces that support, and nourish.

Thanks for reading our "Q&A Sunday".  We will be answering questions submitted by our readers. Click here to submit any Feng Shui or Green Design questions!