Is there anything feng shui-wise that can help me cut ties with my toxic ex?

If you have a toxic relationship that you need to let go of, be aware that feng shui does affect your energy, so it can definitely make a difference. Here are a few suggestions from a feng shui perspective that may help you cut ties with your ex: 

First, make sure you don’t have anything in your home that’s connected to your ex energetically, for instance any of their clothing or mementos. It’s especially important to move these things out of your bedroom, since this is your most intimate room that’s most closely connected to you. If you must hold onto anything connected to your ex (for example, if you are going through a divorce and have to keep the divorce papers), find another place in your home to store them.

Second, space clear your bedroom. Your ex’s energetic presence actually takes up space in your home. Space clearing, especially in your bedroom, will remove your ex’s energy.  This helps create space for you to work on your own self care and eventually invite in a new partnership. There are many different ways to space clear - here are a few of my favorite methods to get you started. 

Something else to keep in mind when you’re working through a toxic relationship or finding your way out of one is that it’s a good idea to take time to heal yourself. An adjustment I often give for inviting a relationship is to put two pieces of rose quartz in your relationship area, to represent you and a future partner. However, in this case it might be more helpful to just have one for the time being. It’s important to heal yourself and your own heart first before rushing into a new relationship. 

by Anjie Cho

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